"the harness is different and allll work but need help on the he i need is the correct wires that i have to hook up to activate the heater or if i have to power it up. any and all help is appreciated" Well that doesn't really make sense to me. So all the power functions work but the heater does not. Now you saying "the harness is different" do you mean the plug from the seat that plugs into the plug from the car?
Also, your thread name is misleading. It should read "2002 Suburban to 2004 Escalade Seat Swap: Heated Seats not working" Sorry to be a pain about that but when you read your thread title, it says that you've swapped the seats from an 02 Suburban to an 04 Escalade.